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Happy Birthday Hannah Banana!!

To my niece Hannah on her 3rd Birthday!!

June 10, 2009 at 6:47 pm Leave a comment

Things that make me happy…

Iowa…who’d have thunk it??

Hank Green dressed as Sarah Jessica Parker from Sex in the City and Rickrolling me…

My Husband.

Finding out today that Susie, Erik & Jannah will be moving to the suburbs of Chicago!!!!!!

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Free books!  Gotta love Paperback Swap!

April 3, 2009 at 2:21 pm 3 comments

To my friends and family…

Last week I put up a 2 posts announcing that Justin and I would be new parents in October.  Last Thursday early morning, we had to rush to the ER.  I was having a lot of pain and bleeding.  After many hours of waiting and tests, ultrasounds and blood work, we were told that I had lost the baby.  It seems that the baby had died about a week after my last ultrasound, which was at week 8.  I would have at the time we went into the hospital, been at week 11.  They were able to get me in to surgery relatively quickly that day, as I had not eaten since dinner the night before.  I had a d&c to remove what was left.  The procedure only took about 20 minutes.  I was out during that, and in recovery for 2 hours after that.  We were then able to go home.  We got to the emergency room at about 5:30 am and were home a bit after 2 pm.  It was a very long, very painful day.  We are still dealing with a lot of grief and I’m still recovering from the surgery and having some pain.  I have had a hard time seeing people or talking to anyone.  If you have called here the last couple of days, you have most likely spoken with Justin.  He has been amazing and I am so grateful to him for dealing with everything I’ve been unable to deal with.  He is going through the same pain, and I hate that I have been making him do everything.  I am eternally grateful to him and love him more than anything.

On top of all of this, we have another pain that we have been dealing with.  This is something we have not told many people about, because I have been unwilling to let anyone know.  It’s hard even now for me to be sharing this, but I think it’s time, and I’m sick of the pain and the secrets.

Justin and I started our journey to be parents early in 2007.  We spent a year trying to get pregnant with no luck.  I finally spoke with my gynecologist and she referred us to a fertility clinic.  We spent all of 2008 there.  It has been determined that I most likely have PCOS.  That basically means that my body does not produce hormones correctly for becoming pregnant and that with out help, I most likely cannot get pregnant on my own.  On top of all of this, my health insurance does not cover the cost of infertility treatments, only up to a point of diagnosis.  So, not only were we dealing with the fact that having a baby would be difficult in the first place, but on top of it, we could not even afford to try.  The cost of the treatments are extremely high.  The medicines that I need to take are over $1000 each time we try.  That’s not to mention all of the ultrasounds, blood work and actual procedures needed to make this happen.  During these 2 years, only 1 person knew we were even dealing with this.  When we finally got to the point where I had been diagnosed and a course of treatment had been decided we were unsure if we would be able to do it since as I said, we did not have the money.  At that point Justin suggested it was time to talk to our pastors, not only to help us deal with the pain associated with infertility, but to see if they could offer any guidance as to how to proceed.  I was still unwilling to talk to anyone, but I knew that we were at a point where we could not proceed alone.  I’m very very glad that we did finally talk with them.  They were able to offer some guidance, counsel and suggestions.  Through that meeting, we discovered that we could possibly be eligible for a grant to help us pay for the costs of treatment.  We were able to get that grant and we were given $5,000.  That would basically get us through one treatment and maybe another if we were very thrifty.  Luckily our nurse at the fertility clinic was aware of our situation and help to find us extra medicine from samples and that people had turned in that they didn’t need anymore, so much of the medicine I needed we got for free.  Things were finally starting to work in our favor!  The middle of January 2009, we had our first procedure.  We did an IUI, not an IVF as IVF are ridiculously expensive and even with another grant we would have not been able to afford it.  We got very lucky and the IUI worked the first time we tried!!  Usually it can take up to 2-3 tries before it finally works.  It seemed that everything was finally coming together, our dreams and hopes were being realized.

It was so hard to wait to tell our friends and family our good news.  I was so happy that after 2 years, I was finally going to be a mommy!  We still kept the infertility to ourselves for the most part, telling only a few people.  The reason I’ve kept this in so long is mostly due to embarrassment.  All my life I’ve wanted to have children.  All my life I’ve had a fear in the back of my mind, a “what if” nagging.  What if I can’t have children?  What if there is something wrong with me?  To find that that distant fear was a reality was a huge blow.  I’m still embarrassed.  I still feel inadequate.  As a woman, as a human being.  One of the major defining differences between genders is a woman’s ability to create life.  If I can’t do that, what does that say about me, about my female-ness?  Even putting this out there for the whole world to see was a very difficult decision for me.  I’m still uneasy about it, but I also feel it is the right thing to do.  I’m tired of keeping it all in, and I want people to know and to understand what we’re going through.  Possibly this will reach other people who are in the same situation and they will know they are not alone.  It’s not easy to be alone.  To see all of your friends and loved ones starting families.  It seemed that every time I opened the computer or talked to someone, another person was having a baby.  It’s hard when it seems so easy for some people, that they barely have to think about it, and here I am wanting nothing more in the world that a baby and no matter what I did I could not have one.  The relief, joy and love I felt when were were finally going to be parents was beyond anything I’ve ever felt.  To now have lost that so soon is beyond devastating, beyond anything I have ever felt in my entire life.  To loose someone you have never even met is hard to explain.  There is no closure.  There is no body to mourn.  There is no name to put to the feelings.  There is no personality to miss.  There is only the hope and the expected joy that is now lost and can never be found.  Only the dreams and plans that had been made that are now dust.

I have new what if’s now.  What if I can’t get pregnant again?  What if we can’t find the money to try again?  Everything seemed to click the first time, what if a miracle can only happen once in your life?

We will try again.  We will find a way.  We will make it through this, and hopefully in the not to distant future, we will have our hopes and dreams realized, and I will be able to hold my baby in my arms and say “I love you, and I’ve been waiting my whole life for you.”  I anticipate that day.  I long for that day.  I cry for that day.

I want to thank all of my friends and family who have been with us during this time, think of us, offering us sympathy and understanding.  Unfortunately, I know many people who have had to deal with the pain of miscarriage.  I thank them all for there words and guidance.

Goodbye, my sweet baby.  Rest now my angel.

March 23, 2009 at 7:15 pm 17 comments

As promised…

Here are some pics and another video of Justin and I announcing news to our families!

First off, we headed up to Minnesota for my mom’s birthday party. It was of course a perfect excuse to go up and also to give her a card with an ultrasound picture in it! I got her a cute card that said “It’s your birthday Grandma!” and on the inside I wrote “See you around October 9th! Love, Zippy Thornburgh” (Zippy is what we’re calling the baby until it’s born. It’s short for Zippy the Zygote, though technically the little one has not been a zygote for quite some time. Baby T actually just started it’s first few days as a fetus, graduating from the embryo stage late last week).  Here’s what happened when mom opened the card (sorry it’s a bit dark, she was sitting right in front of the bright window):

The next weekend we were able to head down to Springfield, IL to tell Justin’s mom the good news!  She was also very shocked and happy.  Again, it was a big surprise to her, and also even more excited because this will make her 3rd grandchild in a year!  Justin’s brother married a wonderful woman last September who has a little boy named Logan.  They are now expecing a child in September – I know!  It’s very possible that Jen and I could have our babies on the same day, or at least not too far apart!  We unfortunatly didn’t get any video of the reaction, but here is a picture I snapped.  Malcolm seems to be very excited, too!

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You can see the post just before this for an awesome video my friend Abbey put together of reactions from some of our friends when we told them the news.  It’s so great that now everyone knows and we don’t have to keep it a secret anymore!  It’s been VERY difficult not to shout out to the rooftops about this blessing in our lives!  We’re very much looking forward to the growing of our family and to welcome a new little person into the world!  Oh, and of course, ready to let all of you help us to raise our child to be the best it can be.  They say it takes a village, but why can’t it take a whole world?

March 16, 2009 at 2:52 pm Leave a comment

In case you haven’t heard yet…

Yup! Come October 9th (or sometime around then…) Justin and I will be parents! We’re very excited! Hopefully we’ve told most of you already, and if not, now you know and sorry we hadn’t gotten to you yet! I’ll have more pics and video’s up later today, but I forgot my camera at home and will have to run home at lunch to get it.  Thank you, thank you to Abbey for this video, and for capturing the moments for us with her camera.  Check her out on YouTube!  Also, you can find Tripp, Obsquatch, and Sarah at their various locations on the web!

March 16, 2009 at 10:03 am Leave a comment

Christmas…

This post will come to you in two parts…that is, I’m anticipating that it’ll be really long, so I’m going to make it into 2 posts instead of one.  This first one will be recapping the Christmas season, and the one to follow will be New Year’s celebration.

Our Christmas got started with a trip to Springfield, IL on the weekend of the 13th to celebrate with Justin’s side of the family.  That side has recently grown when his brother got married.  I now have a new sister-in-law, Jen and a new nephew, Logan.  Also we found out last week that their family will be growing again with a new baby in about 8 months or so (congrats guys)!

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Here is a shot of the gifts before we all tore into them…as you can see, Malcolm just can’t stay out of the shot when I’m trying to take pictures, but of course when I’m trying to take pictures of him, he turns his head, or shuts his eyes or walks away!

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And it just wouldn’t be Christmas without the obligatory foot shot…we even got Malcolm in on this one!

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Jen, Josh and Logan preparing to open gifts.  They got me a Border’s gift card (awesome!) and we got them a scrapbook of their wedding pictures, thanks to Creative Memories!

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Malcolm really enjoyed his new chew toy from GrandmaT…Logan had a great time playing with Mal…wore the poor little guy out (Malcolm, not Logan).  When we got home from the weekend, Malcolm didn’t move for 2 days except to eat and go potty…

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Everyone was very happy with all their new stuff, as you can see above!  Justin got the “head to tails” cookbook (great, now I have to EAT that stuff!) and Logan got a lot of fun new toys, including this gi-normous Bionicle and some Star Wars Transformers that he and I had a great time playing with all weekend.  I got a new iron for sewing, gift cards to my favorite places and a lot of other great stuff.

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That night the Thornburgh contingent came over for dinner and a few more gifts.  In this picture you can see cousin Kathleen, Grandma Thornburgh and Uncle Paul.  Our good friends Sally & Larry and their 3 little ones also came over to eat and be merry.  There was lots of good food and good conversation.  It’s great to go to Springfield and spend time with the Thornburgh clan!

We headed back that Monday to go back to the real world for a few days.  ON the 20th my friend Abbey and I went to Dave & Busters to eat and play games.  It was a great time and we each built up over 1,000 tickets!  We decided to hold on to them and save up for a good prize instead of getting lots of little crappy ones.  Our favorite game: by far it was the “Flaming Fingers”…I know, it sounds really bad.  Basically it’s a touch screen game and you have to make it through the maze before time runs out.  We must have played that game at least 30 times each.  It’s only about 2 tokens to play, and even if you don’t get through the whole maze you get 20 or more tickets each time.  I made it through once and 140 tickets!  Here’s a shot of Abbey making her way through the Flaming Finger maze (notice the cup full of overflowing tickets, that’s Abbey’s):

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I had fun decorating my house for Christmas this year.  Got the decorations up early even – first Saturday of December!  Much improved from last year when I didn’t get stuff up until 2 or 3 days before with left for Christmas travels!  Here’s a few shots of our tree and mantle this year:

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We left for our Minnesota trip to visit my family for Christmas early on Christmas Eve.  I was nervous we wouldn’t make it out, because we’d been having bad weather the past few days, the airports were cancelling flights, etc…but we made it out and only got slowed up for a bit of traffic in Wisconsin Dells.  That traffic however was due to 5 cars that were off the road in about a 1 mile strech, including a semi that was flipped completly on it’s side!  I really hope everyone was okay – the only person I didn’t see was the semi driver, everyone else was still in their cars, so it must have just happened before we passed it.

We made it to my parents house in the mid-afternoon.  Mom had the tree set up and all the gifts under it (except of course the ones from Santa – he didn’t come until that night, sillys).

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Mom and my sister Robbin went to Christmas eve service at my home church that afternoon, and then Justin, Robbin and I went to the candle light service that night, as is tradition for me.

The next moring we all got up to open presents and stockings!  My sister, brother-in-law and 2 nieces traveled up from Postville,  IA to open with us.  Malcolm and Shadow especially enjoyed opening their gifts:

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Malcolm gave Shadow a pig snout (which she devoured in about 2 minutes) and we gave Malcolm a squeaky plushie bear.  Of course, he tore a hole in it by the end of the weekend, but it’s an easy stich up job to fix it.

There were lot of other great gifts given and recieved by all.  I got a large sewing basket, gingher sewing scissors, and neat water pitcher and other great stuff.  Here’s some pics of what others got:

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My parents gave my niece Nicole are really awesome turntable.  You can also see she’s wearing the skirt I made her, which you can read all about here.

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The camping Salt & Pepper Justin got from my sister Shannon and brother-in-law John.  They said they thought it was a lot bigger when they ordered it online!

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Mom got a really pretty necklace from my mother-in-law, and some bath stuff.  Dad got Pease’s chocolates and Peanut Brittle.  You can see how much my mom liked the necklace in this picture!

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Justin and I got my niece Hannah this big Magna-Doodle, which we all played with!

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And my mom REALLY surprised my dad with a new chainsaw!  I wish I could have got a shot of the look on his face when he got that – complete shock – which we NEVER see on my dad at Christmas.  He can always guess what we’re getting him.  See got him go0d this year!

After our present opening, my mom’s whole side came over for dinner to my parent’s house (actually, we weren’t quite done opening yet when my grandparents got there).

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Here you can see some of the Larson clan: sister Robbin, Uncle Bruce, Dad, Nicole, Mom, Grandma, and Uncle Dave.

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Robbin spent some time teaching Hannah how to do somersaults.  She really enjoyed that!  “Again, again!”

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And grandpa enjoyed some of the finer things in life with a glass of wine.  Actually, I think all together we had about 3 bottles of wine at my parents house and at least 2 more at my grandparent’s house!  But with 20+ people, I guess you got through a lot of wine…

After dinner, we headed into my grandparents house for the annual mass chaos of trying to coordinate the opening of gifts.  This year we tried to do whoever opens gets to pick the next person to open.  That worked for a while, but as usual it ended in just a mass of tearing paper and oohs, ahhs and thanks.  Gma and Gpa again made out like bandits with their mounds of gifts.

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This is at my grandparents house.  Niece Nicole, cousin Emma, Dad, Mom, Grandma, sister Robbin, cousin Randy.

We spent the rest of the day chatting, eating too many cookies and enjoying being together for Christmas.  Everyone started trickling out, but my family and my Uncle John and Aunt Deb stayed for a while and we watched Wall-E that Justin and I had given Deb for a gift.  It’s a great movie and I highly recommend it for all!  We went home that night and had hot dogs for dinner (mmm!) and then watched the Hulk that I got from my sister Robbin.

The rest of the weekend was very nice, just relaxing and not having to do anything!  It was great.  We headed home that Sunday and prepared for the next round of holiday cheer…but you’ll have to wait for the next post about all that!

January 6, 2009 at 1:59 pm Leave a comment

New Post on “Hink”

Hey guys…I put up a new post on my sewing blog about the skirt I made for my niece for Christmas. It’s pretty kick ass if I do say so myself. Here’s a pic of it, and you can head over to my other blog to see more photos and to read all about the process of making it!

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December 31, 2008 at 1:38 pm Leave a comment

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